Comments on: Allowing Absolute Divorce in the Philippines

By: Lyn

Lyn — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 21:32:18 +0000

Good Day to all.
I got married to a British national in NOV 2006 in angeles pampanga, and after only 3 months he left after we had argument about his real person and never saw him again. He have threatened me through chat and email, financially and emotionally crippled me. When i heard from him late DEC 2007 only to receive email with copy of his marriage certificate to another woman in UK. And when i ask him why did he not get divorce first his reply was he never registered our marriage in UK so no reason for him to file divorce and he does not plan to come back and pay for annulment he wanted me to suffer and not be able to re-marry or have a life. I was told that if he gets divorce in UK it will be honored here. So one time i was able to scare him of bigamy and get him to talk to divorce lawyer in UK but after they sent me draft of proposed divorce and after i sent them documents they ask for i got message from his solicitors saying that my ex or husband did not go back and not pushed through with the case. He knew i do not have the capability to file case because i don’t have enough money, so he just played and fooled me to believing that he was going to take care of it. What kind of law or country do we have if it can not even protect the rights of it’s citizens. I am financially broke, i have one daughter from previous relationship who is in college and can not afford to file annulment or even bigamy since i do not know how he can be persecuted, it has been almost 5 years am suffering from abandonment and not being able to move on and have new life due to our Philippine laws. And because i had been in the news long time ago, i am so ashamed to even file a case afraid of what people might say. I am BEGGING GABRIELA please don’t stop pushing divorce law, and if anyone can help me. I need advice. Is there a way for me to file bigamy and annulment without having to pay big money? Can a PAO help me? I hope that our bishops and priest consider and think of cases like mine before they say NO to divorce. I’ am a catholic, but sometimes I even think of becoming a Muslim just so i can get divorce and have fair chance in life like foreigners do. May God Bless Us All…. Thank you very much..

By: juls

juls — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 15:10:52 +0000

if the male was converted to muslim, can he divorce instantly his spouse?

By: juls

juls — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 15:10:25 +0000

if the male was converted to muslim, can he divorce instantly her spouse?

By: Chloe

Chloe — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 12:43:53 +0000

I am pro-absolute divorce. To justify that divorce will decrease the morality of men, lessen the concept of family as an inviolable social institution, that is the biggest b.s.

If anything divorce will increase the morals and cement the basic unit of our society, for one thing, children will finally realize that all women have the right NOT to become battered-abused moms,that they can leave an unhealthy relationships. Children will know that EVERYBODY HAS A CHOICE, and each choices made has its corresponding consequences. It will teach children to have a BACK BONE. To be responsible for their actions. Who doesn’t want to be loved? to belong to a happy complete family? Citizens of other countries around the world have these in mind, why can’t we?

Let the Filipino people have the option to choose; either to stay and endure the tentacles of bad marriage or the freedom to live and start afresh.

By: Francis

Francis — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 19:27:06 +0000

I absolutely agree with the above and you can read my comments earlier in May 2011. The people of Malta voted to introduce divorce there and the Philippines is now the only country in the world without divorce laws. Women need their freedom from sexually promiscious husbands, violence and abuse and the only party is the Gabriela women’s party who have made attempts to try and enact this in congress. It’s time congress and members of the Catholic church “woke up smelt the coffee” and stopped suppressing the Filipino people. In fact, why doesn’t the Philippines have a referendem on introducing divorce like what Malta did in May 2011? I stand by this and I am male!

By: Yuki

Yuki — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 14:54:47 +0000

i really like what you posted here… your right.. Catholic Bishops don’t have any idea about the suffering thing of an unsuccessful married life.. Because they themselves never experienced to be a husband, to have their family of their own. To be in a miserable situation. Breakfast-murahin ka, lunch- sipain ka, Dinner- suntukin ka bugbog sarado na. still magtitiis pa.. haizzz ka epalan tlga.. and your really right, pray only to our God Father in heaven, in him only should we confess all of our sins.. Directly to HIM…

By: Darren

Darren — Fri, 30 Sep 2011 22:16:53 +0000

Let’s face it, the Philippines government isn’t at all concerned about the “sanctity” of marriage! they just want the money that annulment generates.

When a Filipino male beats his wife and abuses her and the children, threatens them with grave bodily harm, has sex with a women outside of the marriage covenant, then it’s simply and absolutely time for the woman to divorce the monster!
Don’t let this so-called family code there, fool you into thinking otherwise.

Marriage is an institute beautifully created by God in Heaven, to be between “one man” and “one woman”. God doesn’t like divorce, but He said to Moses, that if the Husband or Wife shall commit adultery, they should be given a writing of divorcement.

Understand that the catholic church there receive ” kick-backs” from the revenue gained from people paying for expensive annulments! They’re not wanting to give that money up! That’s the reason for their opposition to divorce! If the catholic church were really so concerned about morals and values contained in God’s Holy Word, they would look at “adultery” more closely, and get off of their high-horse about upholding the sanctity!

There can only be true sanctity of marriage, when two people are truly committed to one another, and retain their vows of forsaking all others.

That means that you only have sexual intercourse with the person you’re married to. It’s that simple! If the Husband or the Wife has sex with anyone else, then that completely dissolves the “Sanctity” of marriage. Adultery destroys the sanctity!
Divorce IS the answer to this overwhelming, and ridiculous problem in the Philippines.
When someone in a governmental capacity, has the moral backbone to step up to the plate and say we as Filipinos deserve this change, the Philippines will have a new breathe of life! Someone in that capacity of lawmakers has to stand up boldly. Let go of that old tradition of the self-righteous catholic church has tried to instill, and brainwash people to think.

Put your faith in Almighty God and His Son Jesus The Christ!
No more going to a confession and telling some man what’s going on with you.
Pray directly to the Son Of God Jesus Christ. Pray for the divorce bill in the Philippines!

By: Yuki

Yuki — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 05:30:59 +0000

yeah your right, ang pag aasawa ay hindi bsta pagkain na pag napaso ka iluluwa mu..let’s make that ‘saying’ an example… naiicip mu ba, na madameng beses mu na tinitiis,khit mainit,masakit pinipilit mu nilululon pra sa kabutihan mu at sa pamilya mu hangang sa umabot na nabutas na lalamunan mu sa paulitulit na paglulon sa mainit na kanin na un..hindi mu pa rn ba iluluwa?! hnd ka prn b ttgl kht lam mu di na makakabuti un?! hnd nmn lahat ng gs2 mag divorce, unang paso plng give up na.. hinde mu alam kng ilang beses na,sunog sunog na bago magpasya ng ganun… lahat gus2 ng buong pamilya, and yes nagpakasal ka becoz mahal mu xa, nag kaanak.. pro hnd mu masasabi ang mga pangyayare… my mga pag babago na hnd ikakaganda ng buhay mag asawa.. habambuhay ka ba sasalo ng mura,sipa at kamao?! my hanganan dn lahat.. di nio maiinitindihan pinag dadadaanan ng mga nakikipag hiwalay dahil hnd nmn keo sa lugar nla.. di nio naranasan dinanas nla..

By: aleja

aleja — Thu, 01 Sep 2011 04:27:34 +0000

against devorce ako.

why? dahil ito na talaga ang time na dapat nyong maintindihan na hindi laro ang pagdedesisyong mag-asawa.. then if your marriage did not work, you had to fix it.., not by means of divorce..,
may kasabihan narin na ang pagaasawa ay hindi basta lang pagkain na kapag napaso ka ay iluluwa mo..,

there’s a lot of chances to find your perfect life partner, deal with it take that chance.., and if you choose the wrong one., it doens’t mean your marriage will really not work.., so try harder.., nothing is impossible.., maawa kayo sa bata.

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By: aleja

aleja — Thu, 01 Sep 2011 04:19:35 +0000

lahat ng nangyayari ay may dahilan.., lahat ng nangyayari sa buhay ng bawat isa ay dahil iyon sa desisyon nila.., kaya walang dapat sisishin..,
Ang diovoce sa pinag-uusapan ng karamihang nagkamali sa pag-aasawa ay dapat gumawa ng paraan.., pero tanong ko lang.., ba”t ka pumayag na magpakasal sa asawa mo? at may nabuong anak kung wala ka ngang nararamdaman para sa kanya…,
bakit ayaw nyung bigyang ng chance aNG SARILI NYUNG MAGMAHAL ULIT SA ASAWA N YU? BAKIT SYA ANG NAPILI MO PARA SA HABANG BUHAY NA MAKAKASAMA KUNG ALAM MO NAMAN PALANG .., HE/SHE doesn’t deserve your love? bakit kailangan pang magkasakitan kung ang totoo naman pala ay meron pang something dyan?

walang impossible sa tinatawag na “falling in’love with your wife/ husband” for a 2nd chance cupid was there to the rescue..

—work and faith will do—